I need some

[nance]

Sorry to hear that. You should've had his ass out along time ago. I can't believe you waited 20 years. It's sad that many woman gets hit by some spineless man. Be strong, because 20 years a long time, you might still love him. I wish the best for you & your kids. Hopefully everything will be better within a year.

I do still love him. That's why it hurts so much.

He gave me the three greatest gifts of my life. My MAD Crew.

[puppy_dogg]

My name is on the deed. We bought the house together. I have been the kids' primary caregiver for their whole lives. He works the swings, so he's not around anyhow. I also need the home for the kids.

Cali law is fair and clear. All liabilities and assets, straight down the middle. UNLESS: It was brought into the marriage or it was a gift or inheritance. That simple.

I don't want him going to jail, first time offense(legally) because if he loses his job, the kids are screwed...they need their father's support. I have no problem going out and getting a job, but I need think on what kind. I haven't worked in 20 years....

I want him to get counseling and move forward. I want him to be happy too...if he's happy and I'm happy, the kids will eventually be happy.

I actually slept solid last night. I've also lost 7 lbs since Sunday....

you've been the primary caregiver their whole lives but you have'nt worked in 20 years? come on now, be rational for god's sake. who was paying the bills and putting food on the table if you were'nt working? i know i sound like a **** but im truly not attacking you with this, just thought id throw it out there

[puppy_dogg]

It depends on the state, but in most states, your primary residence automatically belongs to you and your spouse, regardless of who bought it.

For instance, I, as a single woman buy a house. In a year, I get married. In two years, my husband and I divorce. This house is legally half his because of Constitutional Homestead laws. If ever one party is given the house, it is done by a judge in court, not by any default statute.

nice post. thanx for clearing that

[Parodius]

I do still love him. That's why it hurts so much.

He gave me the three greatest gifts of my life. My MAD Crew.

Yea I know, this is going to be very tough. I feel bad for your kids, especially if you guys get a divorce. It just surprises me that you've stayed with him all of these years. Be strong, it's not gonna be easy.

[nance]

you've been the primary caregiver their whole lives but you have'nt worked in 20 years? come on now, be rational for god's sake. who was paying the bills and putting food on the table if you were'nt working? i know i sound like a **** but im truly not attacking you with this, just thought id throw it out there

He went to work and I sat down and paid the bills, washed the clothes, took them to the dr. sat up with them when they were sick, played with them listened to them,etc...I could go on and on....

He was there very little of the time even when he WAS at home.

Damn computer game.

[Torino]

He won't go to jail if this is his "first" offense but you should not drop the charges in my opinion. You're just enabling him if you do.

I don't know about MCM's state, but in my state, domestic violence cases are charged by the State itself. Therefore, only the state can drop charges.

[marvdave]

you've been the primary caregiver their whole lives but you have'nt worked in 20 years? come on now, be rational for god's sake. who was paying the bills and putting food on the table if you were'nt working? i know i sound like a **** but im truly not attacking you with this, just thought id throw it out there

spoken like a guy who has never raised kids. That is a full time job..and deserves respect

[tracylee]

Yes.

Got a TRO against him after having him arrested yesterday.

I can't tell you how awful it feels to watch someone you love walk away in handcuffs because you called the cops.

The kids understand why, but they aren't happy about it.

No man is ever going to use his hands for hurting on me again.

Damn lady, thats tragic and I hate to hear it. I was under the impression (from previous posts, etc.) that all was very good at home and in the marriage. Hang in there...I hope all of you are coping okay.

[nance]

Damn lady, thats tragic and I hate to hear it. I was under the impression (from previous posts, etc.) that all was very good at home and in the marriage. Hang in there...I hope all of you are coping okay.

It's not something that one brags about....plus I was in counseling, to fix me....what have I done wrong...realizing it wasn't me...it's him.

Talked with the atty today and realized that if I get the permanent RO, I never ever have to see him again.

That's hard....so hard....

[tracylee]

It's not something that one brags about....plus I was in counseling, to fix me....what have I done wrong...realizing it wasn't me...it's him.

Talked with the atty today and realized that if I get the permanent RO, I never ever have to see him again.

That's hard....so hard....

Bless your heart...hang tough chicka and take care of yourself and the babies