Need some girl advice!

[freethinker1]

Okay this is my first post and sorry it isn't about boxing!
Well let me lay the scene for you and you give me honest advice. I recently started work in a new place and have become friends with this girl who also started the same time as me. She is absolutely stunning. I know beauty is subjective and that but she's by far the hottest girl in the workplace. Well, we hit it off straight away and she told me that she had a boyfriend whom she's been seeing for a few years but he is often away due to his job. (She moved to this new job to be closer to him after a long distance relationship...) Anyway, without meaning to we started hanging out together a lot including after work and we went out for dinner a few times too. At work we work in the same office so I see her every day. We've become closer and I really like her (she's close to the perfect woman for me as far as looks go and she has a great personality too...) Well, I'm a natural flirt and today we were in the office and talking after work (she's a religious Christian and practising) and I asked her out for dinner again. We had just had a long discussion about religion and science. She then told me that she wasn't sure if she'd go out for dinner with me because she felt I was 'hitting on her' and being flirty even though she had told me of her boyfriend. She also told me that she felt I complimented her too much and it made her uncomfortable because her girl friends (two of whom don't like me and I know that and even she admitted they don't like me) had noticed that she was spending a lot of time with me and that I was complimenting her and being flirty and they'd asked her if anything was going on between us! Anyway, I told her that she shouldn't care what other people thought and that I just liked spending time with her and I complimented her only because she deserved it! She said why don't you ever compliment other girls in the office. I said I didn't really click with them. She also said I didn't have to try to impress her before!

She said she's going to have to think about going to dinner with me again as she 'knows what guys are like'. Anyway, we then walked home together having more or less the same discussion on the way! Me saying that my compliments weren't meant to be flirtatious and she not so sure as she wasn't sure guys and girls could just be friends and she had a bf already. She also seemed really concerned about the fact that when we'd gone out on office night's out as a group her friends had noticed how I flirted , looked at her, and was close to her.

Now if I am honest I was macking this girl and hoping she'd become my GF. I've always flirted with her and she's never resisted before and we've been quite touchy-feely before and she's never said anything until now. She swears its nothing to do with the religion-science debate we had.

Anyway, how do I rescue this situation? Should I just walk away? It'll be hard cos the truth is she was right and I am falling for her.. (I spend most of my time alone thinking about her) .(though I didn't tell her but she obviously guessed from my body language...) but I don't want to ruin a friendship and I also don't want to have a bad atmosphere at work but I'd be in heaven if she becomes my GF even if it takes a while and lots of effort!

Any advice would be welcome!

[T-97]

I'm not exactly an expert on women and relationships, but I'll give it a go

Firstly, I wouldn't be going for someone that is involved in a serious relationship, personally. I know a lot of the alpha-male types around here might slate me for it, but that's never felt right to me. She's been with the guy for a couple of years, and I'm assuming she is happy in the relationship if she moved closer to him? Plus, if anything happened now, and you got together, would you be able to trust her? Knowing that she ran out on the last guy could make it difficult.

Also, saying your compliments etc weren't supposed to be flirtatious could cause some issues. 'cause now, if you carry on hitting on her, you look like a liar (although, saying that you were flirting with her might have been awkward )

As for what to do, treat her like another human being. Don't chase after her and throw yourself at her, you'll look like an idiot - especially if she is happy in her relationship. Stay friends with her, surely if you're falling for the girl, you'd rather be friends than nothing at all? If anything happens, it happens, just don't push it as she's already hinted that it's making her uncomfortable.

Doubt I was much use, but hope something I wrote helps

[gamefrk]

Fcuk her right in the pussay.

[STEELHEAD]

i'd do something on the sly to figure out what she really want.
for instance...
1. cut a hole in one of your front pockets.
2. stick your hardon thru it.
3. be caring an arm full of books.
4. walk up to the girl in question and ask her if she could reach into your front pocket and get your eraser.

[-jose-]

a great poster once said "show me her ****"





free -MAK

[C U NextTuesday]

As you're alone fantasising about her, her boyfriend is filling every orifice of hers with his semen.

Just let that sink in.

[SOUTH-FLA]

It is not her or her girlfriends it is your bad breath, tic tac or listorine

[winky's right]

As T-97 said, it's a lose-lose if you try are pursue her. If you try to make her your GF and succeed, you won't be able to trust her in the future and you knowingly break the bro-code of taking another man's girl. If you try to make her your GF and fail, the BF might find out and will be waiting for you at the office car park one afternoon, and you probably ruin your friendship with her and will be the primary source of office gossip for the next month.


Anyway, she sounds kinda like a closet slut ('religious Christian', 'touchy-feely', going to dinner dates with male coworkers, etc.). If you have no morals and wouldn't mind breaking the bro-code, hit it and quit it. If I were you, I'd stay away from this girl full stop (no more dates, no more touching her, act more like professional co-workers), it sounds like nothing but trouble.

[Barn]

She's already expressed uneasiness about you so just drop it before you lose your friendship as well. Don't press the issue, why should you? She's comfortably in a relationship right now but if she decides your better later on and breaks up with her boy friend then great! However until that point, ethically speaking, you should definitely walk away.

[Rapid Counter]

Fcuk her right in the pussay.

This ^^^^^^^^^^^