Dealing with a straight edge lifestyle

[Trrmo]

Since I gave up drinking and smoking I had to make some big lifestyle changes at the same time, stopped going to fav bars, parties, etc but still when there is an important event like a birthday or whatever that I need to go to people try to pressure me to drink or give me the third degree about why I am not drinking or why I wont just have one beer.

Are there any others out there that get the same thing and how do you deal with it?

I mostly have just avoided the social occasions which were normally just an excuse for everyone to get wasted, alot of people assume I am just being anti-social I suppose cannot accept that I am not into the party lifestyle anymore.

[Salty]

I just volunteer to be designated driver, then you have an excuse if anyone asks. But yeah I get pressured a lot to have a drink, it's not the only way in the world to have some fun. Don't avoid the situations completely though man, don't want to lose friends or anything like that.

[keepthemhandsup]

my friend tries to get me to smoke weed ALL the time......even when i tell him i box and can't be doing that stuff he stills pressure's me....


i just try not to deal with those people

[egonct]

there are few things I hate more than people who define themselves by substance use. I do drink occasionally, but cringe everytime i hear "lets get ****ed up". I feel the same way sometimes of just wanting to avoid the situations, but there's definitely the dilemma of alienating yourself from your friends. If anyone gives me ****, i just try to brush it off and keep the inner satisfaction that I am a stronger willed person, which only means good things to come in life.

[JoHnNyBoXeR]

Since I gave up drinking and smoking I had to make some big lifestyle changes at the same time, stopped going to fav bars, parties, etc but still when there is an important event like a birthday or whatever that I need to go to people try to pressure me to drink or give me the third degree about why I am not drinking or why I wont just have one beer.

Are there any others out there that get the same thing and how do you deal with it?

I mostly have just avoided the social occasions which were normally just an excuse for everyone to get wasted, alot of people assume I am just being anti-social I suppose cannot accept that I am not into the party lifestyle anymore.

i used to have a problem with partying and criminal behavior.. when u realize it gives u **** for a life you need to make that change.. and after a while living that change u cant see yourself going back

[dfwtx]

Honestly if that person can't show you some respect for personal decisions that aren't hurting anyone else then they're not the kind of people I would want to be around

[Trrmo]

I just volunteer to be designated driver, then you have an excuse if anyone asks. But yeah I get pressured a lot to have a drink, it's not the only way in the world to have some fun. Don't avoid the situations completely though man, don't want to lose friends or anything like that.

Yeah I have alienated a few friends but I had to do it to break away from the old lifestyle, cant get away with the designated driver thing here as everyone just takes taxis they are so cheap,

[sukhenkoy]

This might sound harsh, but I've always believed your true friends shouldn't pressure you to do anything. They might offer you a beer, but if you explain your situation, them understanding and laying off should signal a good friend. If they're constantly trying to get you ****ed up, they're not your true friends.

[Detroit101]

Since I gave up drinking and smoking I had to make some big lifestyle changes at the same time, stopped going to fav bars, parties, etc but still when there is an important event like a birthday or whatever that I need to go to people try to pressure me to drink or give me the third degree about why I am not drinking or why I wont just have one beer.

Are there any others out there that get the same thing and how do you deal with it?

I mostly have just avoided the social occasions which were normally just an excuse for everyone to get wasted, alot of people assume I am just being anti-social I suppose cannot accept that I am not into the party lifestyle anymore.

the longer you stick with it the easier it will become. soon you wont miss it at all.....I give you a lot of respect man...

[d_lyrik803]

i had an Irish friend that used to always pressure me into that one last shot or beer. i used to work with him so it was even harder because he would always tell me to tag along to his house or to a bar to get drunk. sometimes i did but eventually i just stopped talking to the guy after constantly telling him drinking is cool in moderation, but not every damn time we hang out. havn't spoken to him a while, like 2 years. this was just a little after i started boxing, so boxing really helped me alienate those types of people. I drink very rarely, only at parties, and i hardly party because of school. maybe every 3-4 months ill actually drink with friends at a party or maybe just by hanging out.

boxing keeps me determined and focus on a goal, rather than chasing your tail hoping for the best, in boxing you can work your way towards accomplishment and be the best (or come close to). life is hard, and so is boxing, as long as you put hard work into both, long term gratification will follow you around.